I have to take a moment to brag on my sweet husband. He was awesome to me this weekend. I mean, he's always good to me, but he went above and beyond the last two days. On Saturday I got to sleep in and once I got up to get ready for the day, found that he had cleaned my car out and transferred the car seat to his car already in preparation for him taking Parker with him and me going to Madison for a girls day with our 9th graders from church. I got to spend most of the day with the 9th grade girls and other Huddle leaders from our group baking cupcakes and cookies and taking them to the assisted living facility. It was fun and fulfilling to do something for the ladies and men who live there. After that I got a haircut (my first since June of last year) at a decently nice place (aka they give you a de-stressing head massage while washing your hair and take a good bit of time cutting your hair and getting it right) which was a real treat. Jeremy took Parker to meet his mom and brother for lunch and played at home for the rest of the day, so I think they had a fun guys day too! After dinner last night, Jeremy cleaned up after dinner to end a wonderful day.
We went to church this morning and out to eat at our usual Sunday lunch place (Moe's Southwest Grill). Afterwards I took a 3-hour (!!!!!!!) nap totally uninterrupted and woke up to a quiet house. Jeremy had taken Parker on a walk/wagon ride so I got a chance to walk outside by myself and enjoy this beautiful weather. Once they got back, I found that Jeremy had put my new tag on my car for me- just another small thing that I would have forgotten to do myself.
On weekends like this, I am reminded of how thankful I am to be married to someone who is so selfless so much of the time. I am not the easiest person to live with lately (i.e. pregnant and mildly moody), but he is so good about doing things to make me more comfortable, less tired, etc. even though I know he gets tired too. God also reminded me that there will be times when he is tired, moody, etc. and I should show him the same measure of grace and selflessness he has shown me.
To me, that's what marriage is about- lifting the other person up when they need it most, and they do the same for you. When we are at our worst- that is when we need grace the most. Marriage is the place you get the chance to show this ongoing selflessness. As you share it with one another, the giving of yourself is something you WANT to do, not that you have to do.
This is the same as it is with Christ- the sacrifice he made for me and the grace he shows me every day should make me WANT to give of myself to whatever He is calling me to do, not do it out of obligation. I know I won't pull this off perfectly with my spouse or with God. I am sure I will choose selfishness sometimes when I get stuck in my humanity, but I hope that I can remember the grace I've been shown by both my husband and my God and that it directs my behavior and my choices towards them.
"Through selfless work, love of God grows in the heart. Then through his grace one can realize him in course of time. God can be seen."
Ramakrishna
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